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Sobriety tools

So grateful for this 8 week sobriety workshop!  The tools and lectures are so perfectly timed. Anyone thinking of quitting drinking or who has already quit but is looking for ways to develop tools for your sober life, I highly recommend Hip Sobriety School. I was totally overwhelmed with the idea of making this map and toolkit, but finally I just put pen to paper and tried my best. It was easier than I thought and it was actually quite helpful!

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Traveling hubby

First time hubby is traveling for work since I quit drinking. His travel nights usually end with me binge watching chick sitcoms while downing 2 bottles of wine. I ALWAYS wake up the most hungover on the days he is gone, and I ALWAYS regret whatever I did the night before.

Not this time! I’ve got like eight different herbal teas to choose from, new bubble bath to try out, and This Naked Mind downloaded in my new Kindle (that I just bought with the money I saved from not drinking)! Go me! Cheers to a very lovely evening of not drinking and an upcoming morning of feeling amazing!

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Drinking dreams

So last night I had a “drinking dream”. I remember when I quit smoking, I started having all these random dreams where I was smoking in them. It would freak me the fuck out, and I’d wake up craving cigarettes. I wasn’t expecting it to happen with drinking too! The dream was SO REAL and SO DETAILED. It’s like my brain was all “ok fine, you won’t drink for me when you consciously think about it…maybe I can get you triggered when you’re unconscious”. Well fuck off, brain! In the dream, I was sitting next to hubby and even said “this doesn’t make any sense at all – I’m obviously going to feel like shit”. So anyways, the dream rattled me a bit …but luckily, it’s just a dream.

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Preparation goes a long way!

Well today is day 12 of sobriety – officially 1 day more than I’ve been able to pull of in over a decade! First – I wanted to share what an amazing thing I’ve discovered. I apparently haven’t slept well in what seems like FOREVER! And thanks to not drinking, I SLEEP!!! I fucking sleep! Look at this shot of my average sleep before quitting and now my average sleep after quitting (from my Fitbit)!!!

This weekend started off very difficult – I hadn’t prepared myself AT ALL for the witching hour that Friday was going to be. I got through it, but not happily. By Saturday, though, I had a much better understanding of what was to come, and I practiced what I’ve learned at Hip Sobriety School so far. As a result, Saturday was an amazing evening! This isn’t easy by any means – but this weekend taught me that preparation and hard work go A LONG WAY!

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Fridays are my “witching hour”

My mantra from my sobriety school really holds true today…”Our challenges are our greatest learning devices”. Thanks for being 100% perfectly timed Holly!

Last night, I struggled with my second-ever sober Friday and was ready to say Friday’s suck ass – but I guess I will instead say “Friday’s are filled with learning lessons” and leave it at that lol

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Change doesn’t happen on it’s own

Alrighty – I am really going to make this work. Not only am I diving into this whole alcohol-free world, but I am going to really try to push myself in all areas of my life. Part of why I am doing this is because I want a meaningful life, and that’s not going to happen if I just keep doing the same things I use to do and just not drink.

For work, I am a consultant and have had someone reach out to me a number of times offering me work that I’ve been too scared to accept. Today, I read my message from Holly from my sobriety workshop, Hip Sobriety School,  just at the right moment. Another job offer has come my way, and I am scared to death to do the job….SCARED. TO. DEATH! But….

I am willing to start before I’m ready!

So…I have accepted the work and am going to try out being a little uncomfortable …why not now when I have a great new supportive community? Why not now when I am already uncomfortable as hell with everything else I’m doing lol. If not now, then when?

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The start of a new life…

Hey everyone. I am 41, married, no kids. I’m known as a great story teller, and most of my drinking stories have been quite entertaining to those that know me. But for those of us that struggle w/ drinking, the stories are all familiar and quite sad when you strip them down to the basics – I drank too much AGAIN, stupid shit happened AGAIN, I did something questionable that I MIGHT remember tomorrow, and I feel like shit about it AGAIN. Sprinkle in some anxiety, panic attacks, sleepless nights, and you probably get the gist.

I come from a long line of alcoholics, and I’ve been drinking all of my life – off and on as a teen, daily since I was 21… with the last 5ish years being about 1-2 bottles of wine a day. I am what I like to call a “highly functional drunk”. I have a great marriage, great job, and I doubt a single sole around me would even think of me when thinking of the word alcoholic. My own husband had a very hard time understanding why I’d even want to not drink.. as I’ve been able to hide my problem from him for the most part or at least “market” it well enough that he doesn’t see it as a problem. I recently relocated to my husbands’ home town. I have no real social life, and my husband travels quite a bit for work. This has left me all alone, with little to do, and a lot of wine and vodka to drink. I’ve managed to make wine and “pretty little martinis” look like an acceptable “hobby”, meanwhile I’m drunk, making dumb choices, feeling like shit, and wishing I had an actual meaningful life. I’d like my Facebook memories to pop up with real life experiences, instead of “hey look, 5 years ago you took a picture of a martini!”

In the past, I’ve attempted to make rules around drinking, stop drinking, only occasionally drink – all with no success. Most recently, I stayed “sober” 11 days and then decided I did so well not drinking, I “must not have a problem” and proceeded to start my 1-2-bottles-a-day right back up again. Then last week it hit me… the fact that I even have a concept of “drinking just fine” is a fucking problem! The fact that I was able to “not drink” for 11 days, and I think that’s some great feat that DESERVES a “drinking reward” – is a fucking problem! The fact that I think drinking 7 glasses of wine EVERYDAY “is fine” – is a fucking problem!

So here I am…I haven’t drank since September 19th, and I am 100% invested in making this work. I want to be a bad ass who doesn’t have to worry about not drinking. I want to have a life. I want to sleep through the night. I want to actually know what Amazon orders I made the night before. I want to enjoy life the way it actually happens. I want to find meaningful things to do with my time rather than occupy all of it with thoughts of drinking, not drinking, maybe drinking.

I just want to be free!